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Happy Anniversary

on August 8, 2013

Today celebrates Jeremy’s and my fourth anniversary! We went out to 750ml Wine Bar to celebrate and left the kiddos at home with my parents, so this post is composed under the influence of half a bottle of Chenin Blanc/Viognier blend and some excellent food.

A lot has happened in the last four years, since Jeremy and I were married. We met in Collegeville, MN at grad school, then moved together to Billings, MT when I graduated and got a job in Billings. Jeremy finished school long distance the following semester. We got engaged soon after moving to Billings, and we were married at the church where I worked at the time, St. Bernard’s. My boss Fr. Dave married us. Bishop Michael Warfel accepted our invitation and attended the wedding “in choir,” which means he wore his pinkish-purple cassock (I don’t know it’s official churchy color name) and a surplice, and a zuchetto and he didn’t do anything in the liturgy. Except he offered a blessing at the end, but not the Final Blessing. I don’t think. It’s a blur. It happened four years ago for cryin out loud. Anyway, I was and still am super stoked that the bishop attended my wedding. He even made it to the reception where he was gracious enough to lead grace before dinner.

We also became homeowners in Billings. We picked out the best house. I still really miss that house. I am so sad we had to sell it because it was perfect for us. It was built in 1911 and had so much cool character, and hardwood floors, and a nice yard, and in a good neighborhood. I really miss Billings, MT every day of my life and I wish we never had to leave there, but we did.

We also became parents in Billings! Stephen was born in Billings, MT and spent the first 18 months of his life there. I fondly remember taking Stephen for walks in his stroller around the neighborhood streets, and to the farmers’ market downtown, and to the grocery store. Being new parents was a hard time in our lives, but we were together and we supported each other through the tough nights and days. I remember crying all the time and Jeremy was there to help me through it and encourage me and tell me I was doing a good job. I’m so grateful he supported me when I decided to leave my full time job. After I became a stay-at-home mom, I cried a lot less. Everyone was happier.

In the last four years, we also were able to take Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University and that motivated us to pay off all our debt except two large student loans. I am so proud that we were able to do that. The loans are in forbearance right now which is good, but I feel great that we don’t have anything else hanging over our heads.

In the last four years, we moved to New Mexico for a job. Looking back on it, I am comfortable saying I kind of wish we hadn’t made that move just because it completely devastated us financially to move there and to live there for 7 months and to move away. It was also the only time in my life when I can say without a doubt that I was not happy overall. We did make some beautiful friends in New Mexico, and there were some great things to come out of those relationships, but still. I wish we could have those months back and that heartache to not have been lived and those financial resources to not have been wasted. Oh well. Our life is what it is. I hope this doesn’t offend any of our pals in NM. We are truly grateful to have known you and seriously, without the Seatons and the Hales and the Padillas and the Muzzys and the folks from church choir and the folks from consecration class, we probably would have died. Literally.

Also in the past four years we’ve become parents to a special needs child. Never in a million years would I have thought it would happen that we would have a special needs kid. I never have felt comfortable around kids or adults with delays or other special stuff, and now here I am with my own child who will have delays and so much special stuff.  So much. But you all know about that if you read my blog. Again, this is a really hard time in our lives, but we are together and we are supporting each other through the tough times. Even four years ago I never would have thought we would end up with so little in the bank, living in my parents’ home thanks to their unbelievable generosity, caring for a special needs baby. This year has really been awful. Seriously, the only place to go from here is up. It can only get better because it cannot get worse. Of course having said that…hopefully no one dies now because I wrote that on my blog.

In conclusion, I am so grateful to have Jeremy. He is the most caring, understanding, sweet, gentlemanly, confident, funny, smart, man I have ever met. I am lucky to have him for my husband.

Sorry this post was kind of rambly and honest. I blame the wine and the fact that I’m in a hurry to finish because it’s late.

Photo credits: Celine Michelle, Bozeman, MT; except the final photo: Mary Strauss, Billings, MT.

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2 responses to “Happy Anniversary

  1. Kathy Schwager says:

    I’m very proud that I raised the man you described in your post! I KNOW that the next 4 years will bring wonderful things to the two (four) of you. I love you both!

  2. Kay Becker says:

    We miss you in Billings—-you both make the most beautiful couple—an inspiration to all of us. I have been blessed to have had you in my life even for a little while. Kay Becker (Holy Rosary)

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